Building Self-Esteem and Confidence in Children
How can you help your child to grow in confidence and higher self-esteem? Here are some suggestions:
- help your child set realistic goals and then support them in achieving those goals.
- give your child responsibility and chores at their level at home, and don't forget to thank them and to compliment them on a job well done.
- let you child know when you are proud of them and say so.
- let your child be the "family expert" on subjects that interest them.
- as much as possible, provide a range of different enriching experiences for your child. These don't have to be expensive – a simple nature walk can be a great experience.
- tell friends and relatives about your child's achievements and positive qualities, and let your child overhear.
- make time for your child in your busy day and give them the gift of your undivided attention, if even just for a few minutes per day.
- set clear boundaries and expectations for your child. This provides a sense of security and lets them know that you care enough to be consistent and clear.
- leave encouraging notes or letters for your child.
Try not to:
- put your child down verbally. Discourage the problem, not the child.
- let your child put themselves down verbally; instead, encourage and model positive self-talk.
- compare your child to their friends or siblings.
- be negative yourself or convey helplessness to your child.
By being aware of your child's self-esteem and confidence level, you, as a parent, can act as a coach for your child. All of us do better when there is someone actively coaching us to be the best that we can be.